Anne Maria Ingolia of Water Mill died after a long and courageous battle with cancer. She had just celebrated her 81st birthday on January 12th of this year.

 Born and raised in London, England, Anne relocated to America in the late 1950’s. During her studies at Sarah Lawrence College, she met and married her late ex-husband, Larry Ingolia. Together they raised three children while living in Southampton, where she owned an upscale clothing boutique. She was a very active member of the community, frequently volunteering at Southampton Hospital and the Rogers Memorial Library. 

Anne had a brilliant green thumb and a passion for flowers and gardening, loved reading books in a myriad of genres, had a soft spot for animals and always enjoyed the company of her beloved dogs. She had a deep penchant for antiques, was a travel enthusiast, and was an incredible cook. She had a marvelous, keen, and cunning British dry sense of humor, and was a brilliantly fierce woman who had a heart of gold, endless strength, and was adored by many. She was a kind and caring individual and always prioritized helping those around her. Anne was retired from her career as a real estate broker at Alan M Schneider & Associates, was an active and committed member of The Bridgehampton Association, and loved living at her home in Mecox.

 Anne is survived by her children Rebecca Gaynor and husband Christopher Gaynor of Southampton; Elizabeth Ingolia Bourne and husband Tristan Bourne of Los Angeles; Lawrence Ingolia and wife Tapp Francke of Sag Harbor; two stepchildren, Richard Ingolia and Patti Harris; five grandchildren, Cameron Gaynor, Aidan Bourne, Ewan Bourne, George Ingolia, and Samuel Ingolia, as well as two sisters Margaret Marret of Lyon, France and Mary Arthur of Sevenoaks, England.

 A Memorial service is being planned for June. Arrangements are under the direction of the O’Connell-Rothwell Funeral Home.

 Memorial donations can be made to East End Hospice or The Bridgehampton Association.


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